Thursday, May 04, 2006

After some good, long, deep, and much needed conversations with The Boy over the past two weeks, I have come to the conclusion I knew I should have come to a long time ago. I can't keep this blog from him. But I am not ready to tell him I've been talking about our relationship (albeit, anonymously). So, it logically follows, that the only course of action I take be to say goodbye to this blog.

I am not sure I can totally stop blogging, but this blog was started as a vent. I wanted it to be about single people and how it was cool and I was proud of my long time single status. For so long, it defined who I was, and I was really, truly happy. This past year has been about trying to integrate my strong single mentalities into a relationship with the man that I love.

I can't simply start blogging about other things. If I do continue with blogging, I want MB to be able to read it. I am not hiding anything I have written about our relationship. The things I have posted are things him and I have discussed. I guess it feels likes I am holding out on him. And I strongly believe that there can be no secrets in a healthy relationship.

I should have done this a long time ago. But it was that single-minded mentality, that need to keep away part of my self as a form of self preservation that did not allow me to do that. Bloody defence mechanisms. This past month, I have done much deep soul searching and decided I need to let go completely. And so it has to be.

So, with more emotion than I can convey in mere typed words, Goodbye and Goodluck. I'll miss you.

25 Comments:

Blogger NML said...

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! You'll be very much missed. The boyf knows about the blog but I haven't given him the URL. Maybe it's time...

9:04 AM  
Blogger The Dummy said...

I'll echo NML: NOOOOO! Sucks to hear you're going to be leaving us, but at least you'll be at peace with your decision. Do drop by from time to time, k.

9:30 AM  
Blogger felicity said...

That's a shame, I will miss reading, but I certainly understand your priorities. Best of luck, hope we'll see you again!

9:42 AM  
Blogger sassafras said...

SS, I'm sad to see you go. I completely understand though. Take care and have fun in your journeys!

8:15 AM  
Blogger charming, but single said...

Booooo!

Seriously, though. Good luck with the boy. :)

10:57 AM  
Blogger Kallun said...

Good luck.

11:42 AM  
Blogger jennster said...

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! don't do it, or at least start a new one that the boy can be aware of!!! pleaseeeeeeeee

3:05 PM  
Blogger Dylan said...

Dude this sucks! But good luck!

5:15 PM  
Blogger Pandax said...

Gook luck! Aw, can't even leave up the old stuff for people who haven't read previous posts?

9:19 AM  
Blogger Niels said...

Well, dang. I finally find this blog and now it's gone? No one to console me through my own dating misadventures? Bummer.

4:59 PM  
Blogger Niels said...

Oh. *cough*.

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Blogger universityloveconnection said...

I think the choice really depends on the person. One part of me feels like I have to be the one to fish through emails and look at profiles and go on a online dating that I choose because no one knows me better than I do. But another part of me would prefer an expert to match me up with someone and possibly eliminate those people I will not connect with. Maybe someday I will try both to see which works better.

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